I get messages from people, asking for help to move or work overseas. I enjoy getting the messages and replying. Often, we e-mail each other several times. Obviously, I give general advice, for 2 reasons: first, I don’t know them, and second because it’s free.
If someone wants to hire me, then I send a questionnaire to learn a lot about them, then an hour+ phone call for detailed, tailored and actionable advice. My clients are always happy we talked. But as for the ‘free‘ people, most just say Thanks and move on, without taking much actual action.
What about you? I hate to be skeptical, but because most people don’t really act, I’m wondering if you will. Fine, it’s human nature to value something you paid for. My advice doesn’t come easily or lightly. It comes from experience, from the “school of hard-knocks.” And lastly, it’s your choice whether to act on it or not.
It makes me wish I could share the advice with many others, hoping that one person out there is willing to act. So below I offer several replies I sent. If one resonates with you, Awesome. If not, that’s cool, too.
Here Are Some Replies I’ve Sent Recently:
A reply to a 2nd year college student, wondering about moving “somewhere” overseas.
A later reply to a man in his 30’s, worried how his career path (in IT) impacts him going abroad.
A reply to someone that was in the very same position I was, 6 years apart.
- I had been married for 4 years
- We had one child, our 8 months old daughter
- Lived in our first house, bought in 2001
- Had high experience in IT (systems integration turned infosec consultant)
- Just paid off credit card debt
- Huge similarity in political mindset & US outlook (early adopter in libertarian thought)
A reply to someone wondering if they should leave or not (yes, it was that simple).
First, I’ll give my all-time, most fundamental advice: make decisions that avoid regret …we make the best decisions with what information we have at the time. And that info changes over time, so we make new decisions. But we should always consider the path of avoiding regret as we understand it today.
A reply to a university student, deciding between travel during school or after graduation.
Being an exchange student is arguably the best way to experience a country as a new traveler, because you get true immersion unlike military travel (semi-isolated on a base) and you have no concerns of being employed for a foreign company, or having to fend for yourself (as much).
You asked whether to go permanently or return to finish university. My gut instinct is get your uni degree. Yes, that’ll put you back a few years, several thousand in debt and very likely squelch your adventurous spirit a few notches. But it will also bolster your future outlook, give you many more options (here or ‘there’) and you’ll have a chance to make new friends and networks you will sorely miss down the road.
Well, that’s just a few replies. I hope they might have helped a bit.